Carey, Beth, and Pam had succeeded at work but failed at romance, and each resolved to have a baby before time ran out. Just one problem: no men. Carey took the first bold step towards single motherhood, searching anonymous donor banks until she found the perfect match.
What she found was not a father in a vial, but a sort of magic potion. She met a man, fell in love, and got pregnant the old-fashioned way. She passed the vials to Beth, and it happened again. Beth met man, Beth got pregnant. Beth passed the vials to Pam, and the magic struck again. There were setbacks and disappointments, but three women became three families, reveling in the shared joy of love, friendship, and never losing hope.
My Review - 3 More Sugar Please
This memoir was written by Carey, Beth and Pam and I wasn't touched the way I expected to be. It is described as a true story about Good Friends, Crushing Heartbreak and Astonishing Luck.
My immediate interpretation was, where was the friendship, I didn't feel real genuine love with them, more like acquaintances. You know the poem regarding friendships for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime, I felt like this was more appropriate. And maybe all the recognition should go to donor 8282, he was the true lucky charm that assisted their journey's.
One thing that stood out to me was that these women are writers, they produce work for news, magazines etc but the book about their journey didn't pull me in, it was very factual but no emotion. We knew what they did but without really getting to know why they made the choices they did or what factors helped to make choices.
I found myself liking the men they knew and understanding why they felt pushed into making a decision instead of being in a relationship and deciding things as important as having a child together. This was very odd to me, I truly believe they didn't think they needed a man other than for the sperm. Live your life and when I want will happen immediate, kind of entitlement attitude, this was a turn off. Beth was the only one that didn't fall in this category for me. I am a career mom and believe in the balance of life to have it all but I felt that they really believed they had to give up life all for a child. They didn't take responsibility for why they were over 40 making this decision.
Overall I didn't enjoy this memoir. The lack of emotion and what I consider real friendship was totally missing for me. Beth was my favourite, Pam and Mark was my favourite couple, they seemed the most real and I enjoyed their story, a fairy tale adult romance kind of. There was definite heartbreak but again I think they bought it on themselves. I would love to know how the men felt when they read this book, uncomfortable to say the least.
This was my chose for the bookclub - go here to join Authors by the Alphabet (G) I realised after that it was 3 authors. Q&A will go up later.